the Perfect Wedding Dance:
Tips for Success
When planning a wedding there are numerous details
for couples to decide upon and attend to. Thereís the
reception site, flowers, the cake and all of the food to
deal with, not to mention finding the absolute perfect
dress. And of course, thereís the music, an essential
part of the wedding reception. But what many couples
tend to forget amid all of the planning is the ever
important first bridal dance.
The first dance as husband and wife will be one of the
most memorable moments of the entire wedding event.
Cameras will be rolling and all eyes will be on the
happy newlyweds as they engage in their first joint
venture, their very first dance as a married couple.
While this happy scene invokes a sense of romance and
sentimentality among most of us, to the bride or
groom-to-be that has never danced or feels uneasy on the
dance floor, it can invoke a sense of anxiety and fear.
This doesnít have to be the case, and it really
shouldnít be something that causes apprehension, after
all this is a happy joyous occasion!
Consider the following simple tips to help make your
first wedding dance a beautiful highlight of your
First, Learn the Moves
If youíre apprehensive about dancing in front of all of
your friends and family on your wedding day, why not
consider taking some lessons before the big day? Dance
lessons are a gift you can give yourselves that will
last long after the last guest has gone home. The ideal
time to begin is usually three to four months before the
wedding, but the sooner the better.
The less pressure one feels makes a big difference in
how easily they pick up on the various moves or steps.
Look at it as a new hobby to do together in preparation
for your special day! Not only will you be able to glide
beautifully across the dance floor at your own wedding,
but think of all the other weddings, parties, vacations
and events where your newfound knowledge of dancing will
come in handy.
Decide on the Type of Dance
There are numerous types and styles of dances to choose
from when it comes to picking the perfect wedding dance.
And remember, the coupleís first dance can set the tone
for the rest of the wedding reception. If one or both of
you look uncomfortable, your guests may be reluctant to
join in on the fun!
If you donít already have a specific song in mind for
your first dance, consider choosing something relatively
short, but long enough to show off the skills and
confidence that youíll have. In a professional dance
competition songs average about three minutes in length,
if itís long enough for the experts, it should be long
enough for you, too! An instructor or professional can
gear you toward the right selection for the mood you
wish to elicit at your reception as well.
Many couples decide on the Waltz or Foxtrot as they are
great standards and many songs have a tempo that works
well with either choice. These two dances have been
popular for countless years and many people are familiar
with them and enjoy them immensely. The Waltz is
characterized by a distinct undulating quality that
features a rise and fall technique along with shoulder
sways and has always been considered a beautiful form of
Other popular choices for a coupleís first dance are the
Two-Step, the Rumba, the Samba and the Cha Cha. As it is
purely a matter of taste, a first dance can also be
something like the Salsa or Swing for a really upbeat,
fun mood. Many people choose something unique to their
heritage such as a Polka, a Tango or other dance native
to their culture.
Next, Choose Your Song Wisely
Most couples plan their wedding so that the decorations
or the general theme reflects their personalities and
who they are. Finding the perfect wedding dance can also
add to that list of personalized touches. Start by
compiling a list of favorite songs or ones that have a
special meaning between the two of you.
Then begin the task of narrowing down your choices until
you have a set that you are both comfortable with. Try
them out with the style of dance youíve chosen and see
what works the best. While you should always pick a song
that you both love, itís important to choose one that
works with the dance steps you know as well.
Remember, Practice Makes Perfect!
What could be more fun than spending some quality time
with your beloved during the hectic time of planning a
wedding than learning how to dance together? While the
first dance between a man and his new wife is a private
moment filled with love and emotion, itís still one that
is shared in front of your guests.
With a few weeks, or better yet months, of practice
anyone can learn some simple moves and be ready to dance
the night away!
Have Fun Along with a Can-Do Attitude
Itís important to realize that this isnít a dance
competition, your family and friends wonít be checking
to see if youíve missed a step or two and checking off a
score card. Theyíll be too busy looking at the joy and
happiness on both of your faces to notice mistakes.
Always remember that if you can walk, you can learn to
dance, regardless if you consider yourself to be the
owner of two left feet or not. Think positive and you
will surely have positive results!
Relax and Enjoy Your Special Day
Remember that above all else, this is the best day of
your life and one that you should enjoy tremendously.
Put all of your heart and soul into your first dance
with your betrothed and lose yourself in the moment. All
that youíve learned about dancing will come naturally
and youíll be able to exude a sense of confidence as
well as happiness.
And if youíve kept the fact that the two of you have
learned a few new moves a secret, imagine the surprise
and amazement of your guests!