At your wedding, did you do a wedding dance, or have a money tree?

If you did, how did you do it so it wasn’t too tacky? We would like to do one of them so we can have some spending money on our honeymoon, but don’t know how… If you did a money dance, was there a basket passed around, or was the money stuck to you during the dance? Also, if you did a money tree, where was it, and how was that handled?

Now this is a touchy subject. every culture has its different views on this. I’m Sicilian and we are expected to have a dollar dance at every wedding. This in our culture is not tacky. It just all depends on you and your family. Proper etiquette does not apply. So what the other women are saying is that since it is in poor taste for them that it is in poor taste for everyone. I have been to many weddings and they all had a dollar dance it is just our tradition. This dollar dance is mostly in the Polish and Sicilian/ Italian cultures but it had some what started to come to the US

15 thoughts on “At your wedding, did you do a wedding dance, or have a money tree?

  1. Platinum Bride 2B

    OMG, no!!! We would never dream of doing either of these at our wedding/reception. Our guests know proper etiquette, and would be quick to call us out on it if we actually had such a lapse in judgment to do such things. Thank heavens we are happy to have them there as GUESTS, and not as our money train to get us on a honeymoon. Guests are just that: G-U-E-S-T’s. I would never dream of inviting someone over to my home for dinner, only to have a money tree by our front door, asking for money for the dinner I’ve served them that evening.
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  2. weddingqueen

    There is no way to ask guests to pay to dance with you. Anytime you put guests into an embarrassing situation it’s wrong. Just think of the pressure each guest will feel and the obligation to come up with a better "donation" than Uncle harry.
    If you want spending money, you won’t like my advice, but you should earn it or wait for someone to gift it to you.
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  3. ?2009 Bride?

    I never really heard of them, but once I did, I kind of didn’t really favor it… I know that it’s a tradition for some, but I couldn’t imagine inviting my guests over, and practically saying "You have to pay to share this special day with me, even though I invited you…" Especially since a lot of people normally spend the money on a gift or gift card in the first place..

    But everybody’s different and we all have different views/opinions.

    I knew someone who did it, and NOBODY danced with them.
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  4. Boston

    Tacky, tacky. Right up there with asking for money only on the wedding invitations. Weddings are not excuses to bum cash off your friends and family.
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  5. hazeleyez

    Ummm I don’t think that’s such a good idea, Allot of places does registries for your honey moon so that instead of your typical wedding gifts, your attendees would just contribute to your honeymoon. I think that’s a great idea!!That’s what Im going to do, since we brought our house, had a house warming party before tying the knot. Do some research! These places has websites so people could submit it as a gift, and add to your honeymoon , like, dinner,activities, spas treatments……………………..
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  6. Steevs

    I will not have a dollar dance at my wedding as I feel it is tacky. Also, I feel it appears a bit selfish considering the guests already purchased wedding gifts and spent money just to attend the wedding, and now you’re asking for cash for a dance.

    However, I have been to weddings where there has been a dollar dance. The one I felt was least tacky involved the DJ inviting guests up to dance with the bride OR groom for a dollar. The bride and groom stood at opposite ends of the dance floor and the MOH collected the $ for the groom and the best man collected the $ for the bride as people took their turns dancing with each respective person.
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  7. Jess ?Happy to Be Mrs. G?

    Nope. I would never have done either of these things at my wedding. Sorry, but I think both ideas are incredibly rude.
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  8. ~ultimate_farmer_girl~

    We did neither; but I have been to many weddings that had a dollar dance. Typically the maid of honor & the best man stand by the bride and groom. The MOH takes the money from the men wanting to dance with the bride & puts it in a cute purse or bag & the best man holds the money & then puts it in the purse when he gets a chance. I have never seen a basket passed around – I think that’s kinda tacky begging people for money.
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  9. fizzy stuff

    There is no way to do either without being tacky. It is wrong to imply that guests should give you money, on top of attending your wedding and giving you a gift. The honeymoon is your responsibility! Shame on you.
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  10. Shannon

    Ugh, I find both those ideas totally tacky, no matter how it’s done. Your guests have already spent money on gifts and possibly travel expenses and/or child care. It’s not up to your guests to pay for your honeymoon and personally I think it’s rude to ask them for money.
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  11. paisleyrachel

    Didn’t do either, it’s tacky.

    If it’s a tradition in your family, they will decide and they will annouce or direct the giving. Not the bride. No no no.
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  12. Amy M

    We planned on doing a money dance, but people started leaving our wedding early because our pictures were taking too long. My bridesmaids made it difficult to get things going and get the pictures done and over with. It had to be all about them and I really wish I had gone to Vegas and not included anyone in the day except my brother to give me away.
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  13. sden2616

    There is no way to do this with out being tacky. Sorry, If you would like to have money for your honeymoon save it yourself. Or go on a honeymoon you can afford. People are already coming to the wedding and giving you gifts, you can’t expect them to give more at the wedding for a money dance or tree.
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  14. Sunny

    no i didn’t. i don’t think it’s tacky, and when i’m a guest i don’t mind seeing it at weddings, but i know lots of other people think it’s tacky, so i decided not to do it becuase i didn’t want guests talking about how tacky they think it is..
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  15. djlover4life85

    Now this is a touchy subject. every culture has its different views on this. I’m Sicilian and we are expected to have a dollar dance at every wedding. This in our culture is not tacky. It just all depends on you and your family. Proper etiquette does not apply. So what the other women are saying is that since it is in poor taste for them that it is in poor taste for everyone. I have been to many weddings and they all had a dollar dance it is just our tradition. This dollar dance is mostly in the Polish and Sicilian/ Italian cultures but it had some what started to come to the US

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